True Love

I have this wonderful best friend who is smart, beautiful, kind. Total triple threat, complete package, Wonder Woman in a pony tail and modern jeans. She has struggled with finding True Love, mostly because deep down she struggles with believing she deserves it. We all deserve True Love.

The saying goes, "there's a lid for every pot." It doesn't matter what color, size, shape, age the pot or lid is - somewhere out there is a match for your lid. or your pot. whatever you are. The challenge we face is to be open to searching for it - to be smart enough to recognize it when it comes along - and to fight for it because WE DESERVE IT. This is a cold hard world at times, and sometimes we have to fight for what we want. We have to take what is ours. We have to believe we have that right.

 I have a saying that I use often, especially with my teenage daughters. It goes, "Is the juice worth the squeeze?" I believe that LOVE is definitely worth the squeeze. Yes, it's difficult, and it doesn't always come wrapped up in a pretty package with a pretty bow. As Maroon 5 says, "It's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that moves us along." Compromise? Most definitely. And here's the important thing to remember; compromise does not mean settling for less than you deserve, need or want.

Most couples will reach a point where they can tend to confuse compromising with settling. Certainly millions of women do it every day. We settle. It's nurtured into us. BASHED into us. As little girls we're taught to be polite, be sweet, be accommodating. As humans a lot of us are taught not to make waves, don't rock the boat, don't cause a fuss. But I must ask... how do we get our ships where we need them to go if there are no waves? We need wind, we need waves to move us along. We need compromise, yes. But we also need strength.

Back to my best friend. She's facing a challenge with love. MOST of us face challenges with love. It's how we view ourselves that generally decides how we view love. Are you willing to take a risk on yourself? Are you willing to bet on yourself? If the answer is yes, then chances are you're willing to bet on love. But if you doubt yourself - if you have a good amount of fear or mistrust in yourself, chances are you're going to doubt/fear/mistrust love. A pure, True Love doesn't come around all that often in this world. When it does find you, reach out and grab it with both hands. I have never met anyone who truly loved who felt regret over having taken that leap. Love is the best reward life can offer. Now go and get yourself some. <3