the late nighter

I have been thinking a lot about the longevity of marriage. what really keeps us together? is it the fact that we've put so much into our relationships it seems ridiculous or too much darn work to walk away from them? or is it that we really, TRULY love this person, and still want to spend the rest of our life with them?

I guess it depends on the day, right? some days the latter, others the former.

whatever your answer is, it is worth delving deeper into. Sometimes, yes. it's just work. work, work, work, work, work. damn work. other days, yes. it's true love. love, love, love. all you need is love. love is a many splendored thing.

i went on a date with my husband tonight and midway through he started to get quiet... withdrawn. he was spacing out on the tv (damn bar/pub tvs). he'd had a long day. i had to shake him out of it and remind him that we were on a date. and even though we'd both had really long days, and even though we've been together for nine years now, he couldn't just yawn and space out and act the same way he does at home while he's watching espn and spacing out. NO. we were ON A DATE!!! which means, even though he's tired, he still has to communicate with me. he can space out at home anytime. but on a date? i don't think so!

but... was i being outgoing with him? was i giving him the opportunity to be a charming man? probably not completely. so i decided to remind BOTH of us that we were on a date.

women - we have to work too. we need to flirt with them. bat our eyelashes. rub their arm while we're talking to them. touch their leg. show some skin. FLIRT. how can we expect them to have fun if we're not being fun for them too?

i have always maintained that men are very, very easy. simple, but not simpletons. okay, sometimes they're simpletons. but seriously, if you don't believe me that men are really, really easy to please, just show up naked with food. you'll never see a happier man in all the world. EASY!

but seriously, they're not complicated. and honestly, a nice date night shouldn't be either. flirt. have fun. smile. touch them A LOT. but not in the eww, tmi, too much pda, get a room kinda way. unless you're into that. or in a sex club. but seriously...

how can we expect them to be charming for us if we're frowning at them?

get your smiles on, ladies! that's the road to getting what you want.